The Gifts + Challenges of the Highly Sensitive Person

The Gifts + Challenges of the Highly Sensitive Person

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The Gifts + Challenges of the Highly Sensitive Person

Are you highly sensitive?

About 15-20% of people in the world are considered to be.  I am.  And having an understanding of high sensitivity has really made a big difference in my life.

Highly sensitive people:

  • Notice and are affected by smells, noises and bright lights (highly sensitive people often don’t like the TV on in the background, or being around people with strong perfume)
  • Pick up easily on the emotions of others
  • Feel overwhelmed by busy days and long to do lists
  • Prefer a meaningful one-on-one talk to speaking with large groups or making small talk
  • Are strongly affected by caffeine, alcohol, drugs, medication and herbs
  • Enjoy their own company, in fact they need down time by themselves to recover from the busy-ness of the world
  • Have a rich and deep inner life
  • Were often described as ‘sensitive’ as a child
  • Appreciate creativity, art and music
  • Get overwhelmed and overstimulated in shopping centers and supermarkets
  • Are intuitive and empathetic

Does any of this sound like you?  Take the HSP test to find out if you (or a person you love) is a Highly Sensitive Person too.

It’s important to know that high sensitivity isn’t a diagnosis or an illness.  It’s a trait, meaning that we’re born with it.  It’s simply a way of describing the workings of the nervous system.

Highly Sensitive People have nervous systems that are more sensitive than normal and they process things more deeply.  Basically, it means we pick up on more information from the environment than the majority of the population.

The challenge that comes with this is that we can get exhausted, overwhelmed and burnt out more quickly than ‘normal’.  So fatigue related illness, anxiety, depression and low self esteem and are not uncommon.  More on this in another post (stay tuned!).

The up-side of being a HSP is that we are often deeply creative, spiritual, empathic and insightful.  We make links between things in the world that other people may miss, and hence we are often thought-leaders and creative-folk.

People who embrace and nourish their sensitivity are likely to be happy, healthy and doing wonderful things in the world.  People who see their sensitivity as a burden and ignore it, are more likely to end up depressed and wondering why they can’t keep up with rest of the world.

These challenges and gifts  come as a package.  It’s important that we learn to embrace this trait in it’s entirety and learn to nourish and nurture ourselves in a way that allows us to thrive in the world.  Whether or not our sensitivity was understood and valued in our childhood, we can learn to value and nourish it in ourselves.

One of the most important ways I’ve learnt to nourish myself is through my daily yoga practice, even a short practice can make a big difference.

I wonder sometimes if yogic practices were developed by highly sensitive people, they seem to be the perfect anti-dote to an overstimulated nervous system.

My favourite practices for highly sensitive people are iRest Yoga Nidra, Legs-Up-The-Wall pose and mindful breathing practices where the out breath is longer than the in breath.  My teaching team and I will be sharing these practice (and many more) in A Daily Dose of Bliss, a six week course to help you to find your bliss and calm your nervous system, in just 5-10 minutes a day.  I do hope you can join us.

Happy nourishing,

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I am very aware of how fortunate I am to be living in Australia, with more than enough money to feed my family.  There are so many people in the world who do not have this privilege, through no fault of their own.  Why is one person born into a middle class family  and another born into poverty?  I don’t have answers for this.  But I do have a drive and a commitment to do my small part to balance out this injustice. Whenever someone signs up for A Daily Dose of Bliss, I give 10% of the cost of the course to Krama Yoga in Cambodia.  This NGO is doing amazing work supporting young people in Cambodia who are experiencing poverty, abuse, addictions and lack of  support. I didn’t take the decision to donate to Krama Yoga lightly.  There are so many people who would benefit from support in the world, and it’s not easy to know the best way to give.  I am grateful to my friend Sarah Ball, who spent a year working with Krama Yoga, and who talked me through the organisation, and made it very clear that this was a meaningful way to make a the world a little happier. Today I interviewed Kirsten Pontius from Krama Yoga about the wonderful work they’re doing in Cambodia.
 
Hi Kirsten, tell me a little about yourself and how you ended up in Cambodia? I’m a small town girl from the US, approaching my 7th year abroad (half of that in Cambodia,) and loving it.  I’ve always enjoyed traveling and feel so fortunate that my husband’s career allows us to live an adventure everyday. I found Krama Yoga my first week in Cambodia, and instantly connected with their mission. I started teaching with their social enterprise, Nataraj Yoga Studio, which helps fund their programs.  I have a background in marketing and non-profit administration and as a Yoga Teacher I have more recently found a fulfilling role in helping Krama Yoga NGO spread their wings and share their work with the world. Krama Yoga is doing some really wonderful and life changing work.  I’d love for you to share a little about Krama Yoga’s vision and work that they’re doing. Krama Yoga is a unique and special not-for-profit organization operating in the capital of Cambodia, Phnom Penh, reaching deep into a community of hurting and disadvantaged youth and adults. The mission of Krama Yoga is to build and sustain a yoga community for people from all backgrounds, by providing yoga-based classes and programs that cultivate healthy bodies and peaceful minds. Our mission is achieved through kids, teen and trauma sensitive yoga classes for young Cambodians through partnerships with NGOs that offer educational or therapeutic services to underprivileged youth. Krama Yoga believes that awareness and self-care skills are essential to becoming stable and empowered adults in a changing social environment. How does yoga change young people’s lives? Using the healing power of yoga, our Cambodian teachers (who themselves have used the positivity of yoga to change the direction of their lives) work with local organizations to bring yoga, confidence and peace to a diverse group of youth and young adults on a weekly basis. Bringing the benefits of an asana practice, as well as mindfulness practices, students learn confidence, a sense of accomplishment and skills to process the trauma they have experienced in life.
There are so many different ways to make a difference in the world.  Why does Krama Yoga choose to work in the way that they do?  It has really evolved from a love of yoga, and it’s ability to heal and to nurture. The seeds of Krama Yoga were planted in November 2008 when seven young Cambodians began intensive yoga training under the founder and yoga teacher, Isabelle Skaburskis, assisted by a qualified Cambodian yoga teacher, Yan Vannac. By 2010, the training evolved into an apprenticeship program geared specifically to the needs of young Cambodians from under-privileged backgrounds and came to include outreach classes taught by the apprentices for over 300 children and adolescents from children’s NGOs, orphanages and rehabilitation shelters. We believe in community, based on a shared understanding and commitment to healthy and non-violent living. A community that believes that bringing peace in society starts by finding peace within one’s self and that positive relationships and mindful living enables such peace to last. We believe in yoga for everyone! I’m so honoured that through A Daily Dose of Bliss we can support Krama Yoga in making such a difference.  10% of the cost of each online course is given to support the wonderful work you’re doing.  What will the money we sent you today be used for? This is a very timely contribution.  We have been building a relationship with a local NGO that supports victims of human trafficking.  We are discussing details for starting a pilot program with this NGO in order to add trauma sensitive yoga to their support services. Until now, this has been a conversation without the resources to take the next step. Starting a new outreach program like this is done very intentionally and carefully.  We plan alongside the organization and discuss the participants background and current life situation, we discuss an appropriate location, class size and demographic.  While A Daily Dose of Bliss is offering mindfulness and bliss to people around the world, we are so thankful to be extending that gift to a new group of youth who are currently struggling to find peace in their lives.
You took the very first A Daily Dose of Bliss course last year.  How did it make a difference in your life? I don’t know anyone that doesn’t feel, at times, overwhelmed by life both personal and professional.  We have to be intentional in what we do and how we set our priorities order to stay grounded and to find balance. In my personal journey, A Daily Dose of Bliss gave me the tools to incorporate a meditation practice that I was struggling develop, and take a step towards a healthier balance in my life.  It is the least threatening and most accessible meditation course or instruction that I have ever received and has allowed me to experience a multitude of techniques in developing my practice. I am so grateful that I had the opportunity to take this course! Thank you so much for your time Kirsten, and for all the amazing work you and the Krama Yoga team are doing. 

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Self care is essential to our well being.  It’s something that many of us neglect, and wonder why we end up exhausted, depleted and burnt out.

Common self care prescriptions for overwhelm and burn out are things like massages, spa treatments, retreats, yoga classes, daily meditation, surfing and long beach walks.

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If you’ve been hanging around in my world for any length of time, you’ll know I’m into yoga. I live and breathe (and work) yoga. One of the most important messages I have to share about yoga, is about the common misconception that yoga is just about bending yourself into (or out of) shape. Yoga is an ancient psychological system designed to lead us to happiness and enlightenment.  The teachings and practices have stood the test of time, and they’re just as relevant to our modern life today as they were thousands of years ago. What we see in most modern yoga classes, is just a small part of what yoga is.  The yoga postures and the breath work are very important parts of the system of yoga, but did you know there is more?
Ancient wisdom Without going into too much detail, there are 8 limbs to yoga (postures are just one of the limbs).  The first two limbs are suggestions about how live a life in a way that is least likely to make us unhappy and disturb our equalibrium. Firstly there are the yamas (ethical restraints): 1.    Non-violence (ahimsa) 2.    Truthfulness (satya) 3.    Not taking what is not yours (asteya) 4.    Moderation (brahmacharya) 5.    Letting go / not grasping (aparigraha) And then there are the niyamas (lifestyle observances): 1.    Purity / cleanliness (saucha) 2.    Contentment (santosha) 3.    Effort (tapas) 4.    Self study (svadhyaya) 5.    Surrender to God (ishvara pranidhana) Stephen Cope, one of the amazing teachers I interviewed for the Gratitude Interviews book describes the yamas and niyamas as being “about avoiding behaviours that produce suffering and difficulty, and embracing those that lead to states of happiness.”  They are simply suggestions and are most definitely not commandments that we must obey. While gratitude may not look like a yogic practice on the surface, it actually weaves many of the yamas and niyamas together in a simple, beautiful and seamless way. The yoga of gratitude When I focus on things I’m grateful for, a very clear sense of contentment (santosha) arises in me. I’m getting to know myself better (svadhyaya) as I realise what it is in my life I’m grateful for.  It helps me to get my priorities clear and understand my own truths (satya). When I’m feeling content with what is already present in my life, I’m less likely to be caught up in the constant search for more and more and more (aparigraha) or taking what is not mine (asteya). By pausing in my day to notice what I’m grateful for, I’m consciously making an effort to shape my reality (tapas). Giving my mind a positive focus is kindness to myself (ahimsa), as I consciously give my mind a joyful focus rather than an unhelpful one. And most importantly, by expressing gratitude, I’m bowing down to the universe and saying thank you (ishvara pranidhana).
Happiness in your true nature Yogis believe that happiness (ananda) is our true nature.  An uncaused happiness, that needs no rhyme or reason to be joyful.  While many of us intellectually know this to be true (if you’ve spent any time on facebook recently I’m sure you would have read about it!), many of us still have a hard time embodying this truth. Gratitude is a gateway into uncaused happiness.  It helps us to let go of the layers of suffering and discontent, and simply to be with life just as it is.  And when we’re with life just as it is, we’re in the flow of the universe.
Capturing Gratitude I do hope you can join me for Capturing Gratitude.   We’re taking photographs for 30 days of things we’re grateful for starting on the International Day of Happiness. Grounded in both yogic wisdom and positive psychology, gratitude a simple practice that just might change your life (it’s changed mine). Sign up now at www.capturinggratitude.com. With a deep bow of gratitude to you for coming on this journey with me,

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I’ve been doing some serious soul searching about Capturing Gratitude the past few months.

I invested a couple of years of my life working with a number of developers on the Capturing Gratitude website.   And while I loved the look of the finished site, it didn’t have all the functionality I dreamed of.

So I came to a cross roads. Do I push forward, or do I gracefully step back?

When I thought about what I loved about Capturing Gratitude, it was taking gratitude photographs and engaging with a community of awesome like-minded souls.

What I did not like was the back-and-forth between web developers to get the website working.  Honestly, I had no idea it would be so difficult when I decided to create a beautiful site for people to upload their gratitude photographs.  In my naivety I thought this would be a simple process.  Ha ha!

Pushing doesn’t feel right to me.  I’m not in my gratitude when I’m pushing for something that’s not flowing, and I’m definitely not in alignment with the universe.

So I’m choosing grace.  And I’m choosing flow.

The new Capturing Gratitude website is simpler and easier (I built it all myself, go take a look!).

All the fun and community will be happening on facebook and instagram (why re-invent the wheel?).

The 20th of March is the International Day of Happiness, and we’ll be kicking off another 30 days of gratitude photography on that auspicious day.  There’s a Gratitude Interviews eBook to download immediately, and a 30 day gratitude eCourse that kicks off on March 20.

To inspire you, here’s a few of my gratitude photographs from the past few months (and boy it was hard to narrow it down to these 30 odd photos!):

If you joined me for Capturing Gratitude in the past, you’ll be hearing from me very soon!

If you’re a newbie…. welcome!  It’s so nice to meet you.

You can sign up to Capturing Gratitude and join in the gratitude fun here.

I’m so excited to be diving back into this wonderful world of gratitude again.

With love and gratitude,

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The Meaning of Life

I love it when my clients bring questions to counselling about the meaning of life. These existential questions often arise during out most challenging times. This line of questioning can be dismantling and disorientating, and arrive with a whole other set of questions like “what’s wrong with me and why can’t I just get on with life like everyone else?”
So while this question often arrives into my counselling room with a fair bit of angst and despair, when I hear it, I light up!  I light up because I believe this is one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves. When we start asking questions about the meaning of life, it signifies the beginning of a shift from one paradigm to the next.  A leaving behind of old ways of being in the world, and stepping into a new, different way of being. But these question bring us into a place of transition.  And transition is not always a comfortable place to be. A midwife knows when a baby is about to be born when the birthing mother starts questioning her ability to keep going and is ready to give up.  This sacred time is known as ‘transition’, and usually moments later, the mother enters the final stages of labour and can push (or breathe) her baby into the world. And just like the birthing mother, the individual asking the question ‘what is this all about?’ is often in pain and wondering if there really is any point to existing at all. At this point, when I’m sitting with someone who is questioning the world and their place in it, the temptation to dish up a cookie-cutter answer to the meaning of life is great.  But to do so would not only be false (there isn’t one) and temporary (it wouldn’t satisfy the soul for the very long and the question would no doubt resurface again), but in doing so, it would rob the individual of their precious journey and personal teachings. Because finding meaning in life is the meaning of life. And there are many paths to enlightenment. My personal journey in making meaning has taken me backpacking around the world, sitting with gurus in India, riding on the back of motorbikes in Bali, completing a doctorate degree in psychology, birthing babies, a long (and sometimes excruciating) process of meditative self enquiry, taking photographs of things I’m grateful for, blogging, learning to follow my bliss, listening to my body, establishing a daily yoga practice and just simply being with myself.
So what’s the meaning of life? That’s for you to discover (go on, get out there and find out!). Leave me a comment below about what you’ve discovered about the meaning of life for you.  I’d so love to hear about your take on this oh-so-important question. With love,

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