To do as much as possible in the shortest amount of time.
On my first day of the job I was told (as only a head waiter can tell a teenage waitress on her first day on the job) that I was too slow.
Way too slow.
So I cultivated the art of rushing. I learnt to move quickly between tables, wipe down benches with the greatest of speed, carry multiple plates with pockets full of cutlery and to talk people through the specials and take orders while pouring glasses of wine.
And I got pretty good of it.
Being busy and rushing around are just so deeply embedded in our culture that we often don't even question it. Even though our bodies aren't meant to be in such a state of stress for long periods of time, and are often screaming at us to slow down, we just accept it as a normal state of affairs. Desirable even.
Being busy is tiring. And really, what is the point?
Why do we fill our days and hours and minutes with endless tasks. Do we REALLY need to be so busy?
What if we decided NOT to be busy?
If we chose un-busy over busy?
Poor me for not being busy.
But NOT being busy is something I strive for. Frankly, after years of doing the opposite if doesn't come very easily, but when I see blank pages in my diary, I smile. I feel the weight lift from my shoulders, and I feel free. When my friend calls me in the morning and asks if I want to meet up that I day, I love it I'm so un-busy that I can.
I'm still learning. Unlearning the rush. And learning to be still. To be slow. To be present.
But now when I am busy, I pause to breathe deeply into my belly and my body doesn't kick into the stressed-out, fight-or-flight mode anymore. I can do busy without feeling rushed. On the days when I have a lot of stuff on, I can do it in a laid back kind of a way (mostly!) and still get just as much done.
And I have a lot more fun doing it.
What about you? Are you unlearning too? What does being un-busy mean to you?
I'm writing an online course that's all about teaching yogic practices like belly breathing to help us find peace in the midst of a busy life (because let's face, sometimes busy is inevitable).
I'm still writing it, but you can find out a little bit about it here, and if you'd like to hear from me when it's finished, sign up below.